Really, these vows are central to marriage
But what are vows? a solemn promise? What is it?
a vow is not a contract
a vow is a covenant
This is one of the most important lesson I’ve learned in the past year. In that year my perception of marriage has changed. It went from being “boring, waste-of-time” to “WOAH, solemn, serious“.
From the marriage ceremony to the marriage banquet, the most important part of marriage is the exchange of vows. Yes, even more than the marriage consummation.
When you exchange your vows, you are not making a contract, you are making a covenant. You are making a covenant between you and the person whom you love. The difference? Well, in a contract when one commits a wrongdoing the contract is voided, nullified, terminated. But in a covenant, it is not. The other remains faithful. It HURTS, but the other will say, “I am still in this. I am still in this because I love you.” That is a covenant.
The perfecting of our imperfection: our ability to forgive a wrongdoing.